The Jamie's + 1

One Year and Beyond - Eating out tips!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Happy Thursday.
I am back linking up again with the One Year and Beyond Toddler Series!

This weeks topic is:
Tricks for eating out with your toddler

This is something my husband and I are just now getting used to.
We probably ate out one time during Nicks first year of life.  We had a horrible experience so we didn't do it again, ha!

By no means do I consider myself a pro at this but here are a few things that always help us:

1)  Choose a kid friendly restaurant:
We always go to places that are loud, have entertainment or have an outside eating area.  We love places that have someone playing live music.  We love outside eating areas because if Nicklas does decide to have a 'moment' its not as disruptive to others.  

2) Come Prepared:
I always 'overpack' when we are going out.  I always bring snacks (just in case the food takes a while), toys, colors, and the iphone.  The youtube and disneyjr apps have been life savers!

3) Pick a good time to go:
If Nicklas has not had a good nap or is just in a mood we never go out to eat.  In my opinion, there is no point in pushing Nicklas when I know its not going to end well.  This, at times, drives my husband crazy but if I am going to be paying for a meal, I want to enjoy it!!

4) Reward your child:
Some parents think this is wrong, which is fine, everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  In my house, if your good you get a reward.  If your bad you get time out!  If Nicklas has been really good during dinner we will let him play on the playground (the restaurant we frequent most often has a playground right next door) or we will go get ice cream.  

I hope some of these tips help.  What do you do to make eating out easier?!  I am always looking for new ideas!!

Grilling, Birthdays, and Matchbox Cars

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Happy Tuesday all.
I hope everyone had a fun filled weekend!  We sure did.

Last Thursday night Jamie decided he wanted to grill out.

So while Jamie is grilling (and playing on his phone) Nicklas practices his golf swing!

Practicing his golf swing makes him very tired.
First, ignore the laundry and Jamies shoes.  Second, look how long Nicklas is... He is already over half of me!

Nicklas and I went to run some errands on Friday.  Since he was so good at Target I bout him a little Lightning Mcqueen matchbox car.  He LOVED it.  He even brought it to bed with him on Friday night!

This picture was taken Saturday night, still playing with him!

Saturday morning we headed to Asheville for our friends birthday party!  Sweet Ava turned 4 years old!!

The party was at Mountain Play Lodge and it was wonderful.  Nicklas has the best time.  After he found the big slide he didn't want to do anything else!!

This was taken about 5 min after we got in the car, he wore himself out!!

We woke up and went to church on Sunday morning.  When we walked into the nursery after church I was shocked to find Nicklas asleep, he must have still been tired from partying all day Saturday!

My wonderful mom always picks Nick up for us if we are working late!  Nicklas loves to be picked up by Ganna, thanks for all you do mom!

Last night a new Paw Patrol came on, someone was hooked!

Then he heard Jamie and I laughing so he had to see what we were laughing at!  They were doing the 'ho down' on Whose Line is it Anyway!  HILARIOUS!!!  Nicklas just laughed and danced!

My sweet cousins started school yesterday.  Aren't they gorgeous?!  The one on the right, Kendyl, started her senior year.  The one on the left, McKayla, started her junior year.  So proud of these 2 girls!!

My mom gave me my birthday present early!!  I love!!!!

I hope you all have a great week!! :)

Baby number 2? How to handle!

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Happy Thursday all!
I am linking up on my most favorite link up again today!  I took a little break because the topics were things I needed advice on but couldn't GIVE any advice on!  That's one reason I love this link up... I love getting advice from moms who are going through or have gone through problems I'm dealing with!

The topic this week is something that I have been dealing with since our little one was born.  
Deciding when the time is right for baby #2 (and/or how to handle these questions)

This post is probably going to be a long one because there are many things I have to say regarding this topic.
Let me start with the back story.

When my husband and I met we both didn't want children.. we were young and selfish!  About 2 years after we had been married my little sister had her daughter.

(I don't have a baby pic of her on the computer I am on)

Our worlds were turned upside down by the love we felt for Brooklyn Nicole.  Brooklyn was actually the first baby my husband had ever held.
We knew that if we loved Brooklyn as much as we did that we had to have one of our own!

About 6 months later we started "trying" for a baby.  It took us 8 long (to me) (short to my husband, ha) months to get pregnant.
As soon as I got pregnant it was horrible.  I did not have any morning sickness, thankfully. Let me explain that I am so thankful for Nicklas and everything I describe below I would do all over again if I had to!

Let me explain why it was so bad:

When I was 11 months pregnant I got a stomach bug... being terrified and having horrible craps I decided it was best to go the ER.  I was hooked to an IV and spent the night in the ER, not fun.

When I was bout 27 weeks pregnant I was in a car accident, nothing major, but when your stomach is pretty much touching the steering wheel and you have a seat belt on, being rear ended is somewhat major.  Per my doctors instructions I had to go to the hospital immediately to be monitored.  I did have a few contractions but thankfully Nicklas decided to calm down and I was sent home early the next morning and was told to stay on bed rest for 2 days.

At about 30 weeks I started developing what is called PUP, I called it hell, I digress, PUP is a rash that pregnant women sometimes get.  It makes you scratch all over.  I had rashes all over my body.  Since I was pregnant there were no medicines I could take.  I was given an ointment that did nothing but stain my sheets.  I couldn't even sleep at night!  NO FUN!!!

At about 37 weeks while I was at work my blood pressure sky rocketed.  One of my sweet friends from work drove me to meet my dad and he then rushed me to my doctor.  After being seen by my doctor I was told to go to the hospital.  I was monitored most of the day and then sent home.  After this I talked with my boss and we decided it was probably best to start my maternity leave early.  

I also was extremely swollen and uncomfortable.  I could only fit into one pair of my shoes... thank goodness it was summer time!

Nicks delivery was not much fun either.  I went into labor on my own about 2 1/2 weeks early (on my grandfathers birthday.)  Everything was fine until we found out nick was face up and pretty much stuck in the birth canal and I would only dilate to 5 cm.  We decided to do a C Section.  Nicklas was out within the first 10 min. of the C - Section.  After Nicklas was out and being loved on by his daddy my doctor told me that she couldn't get my uterus to harden and they could not stop my bleeding.  I was not feeling well at all and kept having sharp pains.  I do remember telling my nurse that I was going to throw up (TMI) and I did.  I don't remember anything else until they moved me to another bed and I was taken to my room, this was 2 1/2 hours later.  I had not even held my baby.  After the C - Section I was in so much pain, so out of it, and on so much medication that for the next 2 days I don't remember anything.  

After we got home everything was much better and Nicklas and I finally got to bond!
When I went back to see my doctor for my 2 week post op I was pretty much told that my body was not made to have children!

So there is my list of why I never want to be pregnant again...  On to how I handle the questions.

I get asked about once or twice a week when Jamie and I are going to have another child.  I tell them never and just wait for the lectures.  I then tell them about my pregnancy and how I don't want to risk leaving 2 children without a mom.  I then get told how every pregnancy is different.  That's when I do my most favorite answer... I smile and nod!

Depending on who is asking me... I sometimes answer this question with the finance answer.
There is no way we could afford day care for 2 kids and me staying home is not an option.  I also want to be able to provide for Nick as much as possible.  I want to be able to take vacations, throw him parties, do fun things on the weekend, etc.  With 2 children (money wise) this wouldn't be an option.

Another reason I give to people is that Jamie and I had hard relationships with our siblings.  Don't get me wrong, my sister is my absolute best friend now, but the teenage years were NOT FUN!  I am not going to go into Jamie's relationships with his siblings, not my place, i'll just say that they also have difficult relationships.

And the last reason I give to people.  Jamie and I truly feel like we are 'done'.  We feel as though Nick is a blessing.  He is happy, healthy, and loving.  We just don't have that 'urge' to have another child.

I hope this helps some of you deal with the nagging questions.
How do you handle them?!