The Jamie's + 1

One Year and Beyond... #mommyfail

Thursday, June 26, 2014

I am again linking up with a wonderful link up that I have grown to look forward to each and every week!

This weeks topic is:
Bedtime battles (nap or bedtime)

I do love this link up but this is the topic I have been dreading.

When I was pregnant with Nicklas I remember saying that my child would NEVER sleep in my bed.

... you gotta love karma.

In this blog post I am going to tell you everything NOT to do.  

  When Nicklas was first born he slept in a bassinet in our room.  

We began to move him to his crib when he was about 2 months old.  That first week was not good.  I was exhausted because I was working a full time job and fighting my infant every night to try to get him to sleep.  I was also dealing with a LOT of mommy guilt about taking him to day care 4 days a week.  I had always been totally against co sleeping.  Once again... you gotta love karma.  

For a few nights I would spend about 4 hours a night trying to get him to sleep in his crib.

We were all exhausted! So I did the only thing I could do at the time.... I put him in the bed with me and Jamie.  For the first night in about a week we all got a full nights sleep.  It was wonderful.  

Fast forward about a year.  Our routine hasn't changed much.  Nicklas will sleep in his crib about 50% of the time for nap and bed time.

Nicklas will fall asleep in our bed after we read a story and then Jamie will move him into his bed.  He will either sleep the entire night or he will wake up around 1:00 AM and come in get in our bed.  Honestly... I think I am just as bad as he is because now I sleep better with him in our bed.  Being a working mom any moment I can get with him is precious to me.  Also, I know that him wanting snuggle me is only temporary!

Naps are the same... he will normally fall asleep in my arms and I will take him to his bed.

There are times I wish I would have sleep trained him like I should have... and then there are times that I am happy with the way it is.  I love cuddling him but I know that he needs to be in his own bed.  

When all of the sleep training was supposed to be happening I was battling mommy guilt and sleep deprivation.  I know that is not an excuse but in my own defense... I wasn't thinking clearly. 

I went back and forth about rather I should write this blog or not.  I was scared of being beat up about co sleeping.  Everyone has their own opinion and I appreciate advice but if you are going to ridicule me about my decisions please keep them to yourself.

Any tips about sleep training a 2 year old would be greatly appreciated though!!


  1. No judgment here about co-sleeping or a lack of sleep training. I did so many things "wrong" that first year because I was also dealing with some serious mommy guilt about going back to work full time. We do what we need to do. And if you want to snuggle and love on your baby all night long, why is that wrong?! I'm sure you miss the heck out of him all day. We do what we need to do. And it's not hurting him! I'm sure he loves it! :) Cut yourself some slack, mama! You're doing your best.

  2. Thank you so much for the sweet comment! So glad you can relate!!

  3. I'm so glad you linked up with! Please don't ever feel bad or guilty about posting what worked for you. Different things work for different kids/families. There were many times I wish that I could have co-slept with my daughter (when she would cry at night). But I'm a super light sleeper and could not handle having her in our bed. Everything worked out perfectly in the end though and that's all that matters!

  4. I've had my son in our bed EVERY NIGHT since he came home from the hospital, and he is 13months old. I work full time, too and I tell myself almost every week "OK, this weekend we are going to get him into his crib all night." it never happens.
    I remember the lactation consultant telling my BF group that we are one of the only countries in the world that DOESN'T co-sleep, so don't worry about it. Hopefully we will both figure it out one of these days and start getting 8+ hours of sleep! :-)


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