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One Year and Beyond Toddler Link Up

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Once again I am linking up with some mommy blog friends for the One Year and Beyond Toddler Link Up.  I am loving this link up and so thankful that other blogger moms have started this link up.  I love how we can help each other, learn from each other, and vent!


This weeks topic is probably going to be the hardest for me.  I will probably cry while writing it.
This weeks topic is:
Dealing with 'Mommy Guilt"



When I got pregnant we had a baby sitter option set up for my little one.  Well, after much thought and some health issues that option went away.  I then started looking into having someone come to our house to watch our little one while I was at work.  After all the horror stories I read online while doing research we decided day care was going to be best.



Nicklas was 7 weeks and 4 days old his first day of Day Care.

I UGLY cried when I dropped him off.



I work a 'full time' job.  I work all day Mon. and Tues. and from 8:00 - 3:00 on Wed. and Thurs. and I have Friday off.  Very rarely does Nicklas go to 'school' on Fridays.
  I do not have the option to stay home.  A lot of people would ask me why I was having a child if I couldn't stay home with him?!  Really?!  Yes, I feel guilty every day but most Americans do have to use some from of day care.  

Nicklas loves his 'school.'  He went through a small phase of crying when we left him but that only happened for about a week.  He will hold his hands out to his teachers and he loves his 'friends.'

I have also been lucky enough to be there for the first time he said his first word, the first time he crawled and his first step.

I also have a week off about every 3 months and a lot of extra long weekends!!

Okay, with all that being said to pump me up, it sucks.  I miss my child everyday.  I hate that I have to be away from him.  The first month he was in day care I called to check on him everyday.  I hate going on date nights or girls nights because I feel guilty that I am away from my child all week.  My blogs are always written at night time when Nicklas is in bed because I do not want to take a moment away from mine and his time together because I am always away from him.  I hate going to get pedicures or massages or shopping or anything that has to do with me leaving Nicklas because I am always away from him.  

Yes, its kind of pathetic... but my worst downfall is mommy guilt.  

I know that Nicklas is okay, I know he is having fun and is in good hands with people that love him, but that still doesn't take the place of his mommy.



Okay, I'm done and I did cry writing this but I know all moms deal with this so I look forward to reading about how you other blogger moms out there deal with it!

7 comments:

  1. Thanks so much for linking up with us girl and sharing your heart :) You are such a great mama!! We give our kids our best and that makes us pretty cool :)

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    1. Thanks Heather! I love this link up so much, such a good idea you all came up with!! Thanks for stopping by!! :)

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  2. So true and so tough. Being a working mom is hard. I have a very very hard time doing anything for myself because I feel like every waking moment not at work should be spent with Mac. I know it's good for him to spend time with his dad and good for me to have some personal time, but it's hard to get over the guilt when your time always feels so limited. Great honest post. Thanks so much for linking up today!

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  3. Why would anyone say that to you? Deny yourself the joy of being a mother just because you have to work? That's ridiculous! I am sooooo sorry that you miss him so much and it eats you up! But you are an amazing momma!! He's happy at his school and it makes him so happy to be with you after! And you ARE being a responsible mom (and the best teacher) by doing what it takes to provide for your family. I have this theory that kids are so entitled these days because a lot of adults aren't willing to work hard for what they want. They expect others to just give them what they want... and that's not doing any favors for our kids. You're teaching him at a young age what work ethic means. And that doesn't mean you love him any less! Seriously momma, you are doing an AMAZING job!!

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  4. Thank you for sharing your story! Mom guilt is such a tough thing to deal with. I am a stay at home mom, but my heart goes out to you. But how great that your son loves school, and that you are able to experience the firsts. You are providing for your son, and that is something to me so proud of!

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  5. loved your thoughts! I can't believe people say that to you?! Staying is not an option for everyone and it isn't made for everyone. I always thought I was going to work when I had kids and the time came to go back to work and I just couldn't do it. I feel like our culture makes it really hard to be a one income family...I mean really hard...You son is adorable.

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